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Self-love in the Time of Coronavirus

(Re-posted from March) Last night I heard that Boston is closing restaurants, except for take-out.  After my first thought of concern for friends who own 3 restaurants, hoping that they are ok, a feeling of intense fear came into my mind and body. What if Iose my job?  What if I can’t get out of the house to get food?  What if….?  What if….?  What if…..?   After about 5 minutes, I then thought, “OK.  This is happening.  I have no control over it.  So how do I want to go through this?  How do I want to be?”  The first thing that came into my head is that I want to get good nights of sleep.  Why?  Because the second thing that came into my head is that I want to be productive.  I want to be as productive as possible – at work, at home, at art, at writing, at healing myself and others.  I simply don’t want to wallow in this fear.  It is what it is.  My husband and I are doing all the right things to stay healthy.  All we can control is what we are doing and how we are doing it.  So how did I get to a better place?  I used these tools, healing resources: 

  • Mindfulness – noticing the tensions in my body and releasing them.  Go for body scans and autogenic practices.
  • Meditating – meditations that release what does not belong to me and takes me to source for connection and replenishment.  Chakra meditations are great! 
  • Self-compassion – recognizing that I/you feel scared, that this is what people go through when these tough times arise, and giving myself/yourself grace and love and self-nurturing and self-kindness.
  • Timed mindfulness break:  I’m thinking of taking a mindfulness break (literally putting an alarm on my phone) several times a day to consciously make myself check into my body and frame of mind.  Then using these tools above to get back to present moment, release fears, fill myself with light from connection to spirit, sending the light out into the world, grounding myself, and moving forward. 

Of course I/we will all have moments of fear and feelings of isolation.  We are human, after all.  It’s understandable.  For those tough times, hopefully we will be able to shorten them with all the tools that we have all learned. 

I invite you also to ask yourself:

  • How do I want to go through this?  Who do I want to be?  How do I want to be?
  • What are the tools and resources I have that can help me to be who and how I want to be during this time?